What can be said about relationships that are soo intense... so pure; yet they lack one thing that is crucial... distance....

I love this Article on how brutally you can analyse your relationship's effectiveness...

Long Distance Love - Who Moves Where?

We can see only so far... can hear only so much, and smell something in even less proximity...

Love is, i think, like a plant... it needs continuous caring and watering and commitment and strength to grow... and literally be a sort of a tree with nurturing qualities like shade and holding soil with strong roots...
Something that takes time at least; and commitment...

what i have learnt from my personal experience is that... it has to be in close proximity...and i don't mean distance wise... (that can change - like the article says above - if your partner gets a job in another location...)
But i mean proximity with beliefs; and etiquette of living... the little things that make both of you; you... coz the love filled poison from the Cupid's arrow ;-) is just a silly chemical thingi that lasts for a year... then you're on your own... with the little things that you like about each other...

It's almost like sex... only in reverse... the foreplay (a lasting relationship) is more important then the ejaculation (being love)

But i mean.... the true strong ones of us are like... hunters, warriors... and want and always have run for something that is IMPOSSIBLE...
and we do indeed need that sensation and drive in us... to be better... to achieve the higher... but i just want to say one thing... if we don't involve God in anything... then it's useless... like a body without a soul... it can be as beautiful as it can be... but it's lifeless... simply meaningless...
Love Is not beautiful without God in it...trust me; it's NOT...
No matter how wild and dreamy your relationship is.. it's alll in Vain without GOd...

So many fall in love and indeed kill themselves; when it doesn't materialise or get too much intoxicated by it... that they loose meaning to other things and goals in life...
It's something that is worth a chance definitely...
Love requires respect from both sides... sincerity and most of all genuine proximity to thrive... ahh and lets not forget the God factor...

There was a time when Lord Swaminarayan said that ":we have incarnated so many times as humans that the amount of milk that we have drunk amounts to the seas"; if that were to be put into any logical perception... then; we have lived and loved for all those lifetimes too...

So don't dispare... if you ask me... love is nothing but resonance...  qualities that 2 people share and twin flames and twin souls do exist... but you can never say that you should give up if you loose your love...
YES if you do give up.. then you have to be a saint or a nun ;-) but if you want to stay in this insane world... you've got to gamble for love... and i mean... keeping Him (God) in your heart and make your way Through fires at times for  the sake of  Love; but with complete love... not with resentment or pain when it fails you... for love is just about giving to the other... nothing more... nothing less.

I'm really inspired by this simple truth...
out of a billion+ sperms; only one gets to be with the mother ship ;-)
And after so many wiggles and pressing through... after so much effort onto penetrating the wall membrane of the egg... the sperm finally becomes one with the egg...
And !!! The egg actually releases a sort of chemical... that strengthens the walls so that no other sperm can come inside....
Now that is something to be admired about in nature.... that a Woman should secrete a chemical (become almost numb towards Her man only) and stay special to Him... and Him to her... and then only... can something as beautiful as a child... a miracle happen.

Love is something very powerful...
Don't play with it's potential...

Just try and try again...
it's a hopeless game... mind you.. ;-)

Sometimes... i wonder if the age old debate of an arranged marriage or a love marriage is any true for the former

I will say one thing..
Indian families are like one cohesion atom... one family member acts out of bound and the whole atom is unstable...
Yet there is one simple truth about our parents... THEY KNOW US...
what a weird realisation... but yes... our parents really know us... how we think and how we act and to top it all up.. they are NOT affected by hormones as wildly as we are... and hence our OWN judgement is clouded about OURSELF..  only someone out of our skin can tell us our mistakes and errors.. we are tooo prideful in the first place to judge... they make perfact referees... and they know exactly what and where we are going wrong.. and most of the time.. they are right... and we fail to listen to their advice...

they (the ones who are truely good Indian parents) are representatives of God... and their thoughts really manifest.. and just like the Law of attraction is a reality.. their judgment and their choice of a partner sometimes really does fit in quite well with there children...It's labeled arranged... but then again... what isn;t in this world...

everything is arranged if we come to think of it.. it's just that we choose to pick something which is arranged already.
say you chose something... even something complicated as a person; but it was arranged already... YOU didn;t make him/her....
You never were there with your lover the whole time... so many things were arranged for that lover of yours to be what s/he is now... EXPERIENCES mostly; that's what makes a being...

You are just experiencing something that had gone through so many arrangements over so many eons of years...

do you see what i am saying...?

Don't be downed if you have lost on love...
the law of attraction really does work... so the answer to all your relationship problems is...

How is your lover aiding your relationship with God; coz in the end.. that's what counts (A relationship with God)

And you can change the word "Lover" above to:
wealth
health
 
;-)

I know i dig a hole sometimes where i'm not supposed to; but i like to stir up things and see what settles... and in this world of insanity... it's better to pinch and push things to the limit; to see what settles... most of the time... there are 3 types of people... one is like water; the other is like metal and the last is like glass.

The Glass kind... never progress... coz they break and live misarebly their whole life... or even kill themselves if they can't handle the pain...
then there are people who are like metal; they are alittle hard headed... yet, can be twisted and forged again in a new shape... but with allot of effort and heat...
the last kind are like the great people that ever lived... they are like water... they can take any shape that they are given... and don;t have prerequisite's... they just have love for everything... even the devil... they feel sorry for the devil and even fall for the devil... unto how will this devil attain salvation... ;-)


Someday; you'll know the life that needs the calling of your faith...

Awww great song...


Dedicated to Stephanie the most beautiful mother i know; and to her angels.

Women need love

The needle; like the purpose it’s meant for; inches away through the rough terrain as the tender thread binds together with the cloth.

Many people argue that man and women are equal; and that they have to have equal rights… I beg to differ; the two are not at all equal… they are different… on the contrary; women have to have more rights for they are tender at heart…

There is a sloka in the Shikshapatri: Verse 159
"Married women under My shelter should reverentially serve their husbands as God, even if they are blind, sick, poor, or impotent. They should not speak harsh words to their husband."

Of course I was impressed… ;-) the man; the beast; that i am; I should be treated like a GOD… Yahhhh ;-)

(yet since I love math; I like to dissect sentences into words and add their meanings up; hence:)
The Qualities of God are:
(Truth)
(Purity)
(Compassion)
(Forgiveness)
(Renunciation)
(Contentment)
(Straightforwardness)
...
more of His qualities…


ekk….

That means; to be treated like a God; we men have to be all that… !!!

Ekkk
(It’s always the Men’s fault… for not living upto the standard of a God then…)

(And all the women reading this blog said


( the exclamation mark was truncated for space sake ; )


And so…
All the problems in the world… the case of divorces, the broken hearts; technology that man has invented yet no tendency to acquire the qualities that he was supposed to in the first place… it’s all the man’s fault…

Had the man been stringent in the first place; he would have not let the world be such an awful place to live in… emotionaly running dry

Women try to be strong; try to take care of things on their own… after the ruin; but they hunger for a God atleast as long as there is breathe; there is desire to be with a God... And some are strong & lucky enough to leap over to the next best thing... Celebacy... hence Devoted to God completely.


A man; like a needle is useless without the thread following it, the thread is useless without the needle ...

God created a world that is run with perfact coordination… it's we humans; as the most inteligent species who act out of our way and even stoop lower then our counterparts...
Lets have abit of a laugh on ourselves (This fable was told by Mathav-priya Swami recently in the temple)

Have you ever heard of an elephant catching the flu… ?
Have you heard of a clinic for Zebra’s ? where a Zebra doctor has a stereoscope round his neck?
Have you heard of a rabbit catching a cold? Yet burrowed away down in the winter ...
Have you heard of a ‘CNN Breaking news’ of roaches dying of severe diarrhea ?

These creatures know how to live; to stay in the middle; “alittle more then less; alittle less then more…”
They are the greatest Yogis; a bee can make a perfact Hexagon without a ruler or a compass...
   
WE…. Well… we are botox, & running on bicycles that go nowhere & artificial flavors & tinned food & 9 to 5 adrenaline workaholics; that either love our jobs sooo much… or hate it sooo much; (both of which are ultimately equal) for they play a part in the ‘Quality of our Lives’

We don’t know what our purpose is; we live like there is no tomorrow… we have stopped Working for God…
We Work for ourselves…there is no passion for Austerity Sacrifice, Detachment, Righteousness… we follow the fancies of the mind… and try to buy our way to happiness by packaging everything; and putting an expiry on it…

Quantify everything with money….

If this world is indeed created by God… then surely we are His reflections; His workers… as such; our actions; as loud as they maybe; should be to praise Him; to glorify Him… and there is a point where you will be given in abundance; where you will be given “supernatural powers”… but that is still a test; whether you are submitting to God; or getting attached to your new given powers… the rains and the wind that you feel are properties of supernatural beings; these beings are similar to us… only having high levels of Godly Qualities and hence their higher powers… but still limited; these beings are stuck; for they are proud of their accomplishments and hence there is no progress for them; spiritually… there is no submission in them… and they are imprisoned in their illusive world…


Anyway…. back to relationships… most of the time; the man fails at His qualities and hence the woman fails to submit… the needle is blunt without the Godly qualities and hence only makes holes in the fabric of space; no design; or no meaning to life is attained by being with this type of men. Yet; i belive that once you are married; you are a promise to God to be faithful... till death... some things i can't get is the rate of divorce in the west and modern societies...
If there is one thing that I belive in… I belive in Women to change the world; change the husband; change the son, change the father; change the world…


I guess it boils down to the choice in the beginning then… “is your man sharp enough with the Godly qualities?”
if yes…then together, you can embroider in the fabric of space with GOD… It always has to be with God.. everything has to be with God…
IF you minus the GOD factor; even alittle; then everything is lost, peace, health, wealth; and a 'good' relationship' is consumed by “fear and jealousy” on one end or “lust and manipulation” on the other…

Love is something that keeps the 2 ALIVE till both find a harmonic resonance with the divine purpose that they are alive for… both have to have a “Divine” purpose; for that; you have to meditate and introvert your senses and listen to the calm that follows.

My father always says,,, Life is the flowering and weeding of the Garden that is earth; we are visitors to this garden of God for just a few moments; we should plant flowers or atleast weed away some of the weeds that are harming the flowers and we should never be proud of the flowers that we have planted; nor the weeds we have removed… for we are here for just a few moments.
(we should always love God more then His creation… for detachment is the key to self-realisation; otherwise we come back again and again to care for the flowers/weed and forget the owner of the garden)

We have no meaning to our existence… non whatso ever… scientifically speaking… even termites have better colonies; and govern themselves superiorly; all without money too…
We Might as well never have been born…if we do anything for Us Only…

But when we forget ourselves in the work of God… when we try to glorify His name; and burn ourcells up for His happiness… then ….
;-)
we be-come His best wo/man and get a chance to go see His world.

As Dr. Zorun said… in the movie ‘Star Trek - the Nexus’....
“…time has no meaning there… the predator has no teeth… “
one can actually visit this world of His and that too; without leaving this physical body…

The feeling of Happiness is knowing that you put your best into something that you did…
Success is achieved when you are not proud of your actions…
Joy is in knowing that you put the best in what you love…
Salvation is knowing that you put your best in the collective (godly) purpose; and not getting mesmorised/ignoring even the miracles that happen after; and just sticking to seeing God’s divine form in your heart.

Desires, Karma, Infactuations alll are simmilar in meaning; they have to be Godly to have any meaning... otherwise...
Like a DJ knowing all the tracks of his collection… there are Demi-Gods that are playing you a perfact tune; and it’s so nice and wonderful and intoxicating (life is)… but once the lights go out.. (death) there is no meaning to your dance moves(skills)… :-)

Everything that we do… has to be for HIS sake… otherwise.. it has no meaning… !!!

Now hear yee men!
Print the 32 Qualities of God ANd memorise them by heart...

And for women too; Look for these Qualites in our choice... men are big babies; and they need your loving nurture too to grow ;-)

Incase you are wondering who is the Embroider-er in this fable; it belive it to be God; right?